It was a stressful night but still had to obdurate with another wake-up-style by stretching my paws vigorously this morning after a tight schedule yesterday. Honestly, I expected a zilch wish than plentiful of wishes today ever since I got to know that the more man grows the more he eats his given age away in titbits. If you turn 40yrs today it means that you have grown forty more years to your grave, and so why must man glory with ‘Birthday Celebration’? When I was young poverty do compel me to forget, I mean this special day in which I was delivered at Ridge hospital, but I do remember after two or three days have gone by!
And if you are an extremist religious person kindly extinguish your peppery mode if I say birthday is a special day; Birthdays are special because our mother’s nine months’ pregnancy has held a meaning and they died not during labour, if compared to other unfortunate beings. In fact, I now call it ‘DeathBomb’ because time is shoving us to our grave as the day keeps revolving and we know not when death would actually knock but it shall surely do so without fear or favour!
People who had known that this special day was not only the birthday of the Vice President of the Republic of Ghana, Dr. Mahmud Bawumia but was also a special day of the ‘insignificant me’, wished me a happy birthday. Among these lovely ones are Thomas Ako Nai-Romeo and Adiza Aflowa Afful, which came through a mobile text and a status with my name inscribed on it. My mother was the only one who called me on phone not just to wish me a happy birthday but also invoked Allah’s countenance on me, and I have nothing to say again than to endorse her supplication with a hopeful ‘Ami’. After her prayers she asked; “so where, when and how is the party going to be had”? In my trickiest mind of not spending a ‘dime’ on today, I resorted of rescinding her request by asking; “Ah mom, today is my day so you ought to be sponsoring me instead”!
She remains aloof for some time on the phone and that was the moment I thought that I have quelled her! She rebutted my childish answer with a motherly wisdom which forced me to think and thought deep! She said; “you should be celebrating me today and not the opposite because I was the one who suffered carrying you and God willing got you delivered successfully on this day, and for this reason I am demanding this and that from you on today”. Now my time of utter silence; after a long hiatus I was left to acquiesced the credence of what my mother had said, and without further ado I knew I have no other option than to fulfil her request!
To me, this is the best of birthdays I have ever celebrated insofar the two decades and more which I have witnessed this day by the kind courtesy of my Creator, after taking a handful of a mashed yam mixed with red oil and with an honourably one cooked egg, traditionally called ‘Oto’, somewhere in the year 2000 prepared by Rhoda Owusua Oboubi of blessed memory! The traditional liturgies of such birthday celebrations then were not expensive unlike the extravagance of birthdays of today, but highly cherished, no musical tunes but a sobering moments of wise thoughts, ensuring that one’s actions do not go contrary to what the obvious books have said.
Nonetheless, this year’s birthday was magnanimously celebrated and above all I got to know that no matter the lessons we may have derived from exposure, or how knowledgeable we do claim we are, our parents know things which we know not! So instead of spending lavishly on your birthday rather make it a habit of putting smiles on the faces of your parents if they are still breathing and if they are not, be charitable to those who have lost their parents through birth. The Bible mentioned in Ephesians 6:1-4 “Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honour thy father and Mother which is the first commandment. That it may be well with you”.
We owe our parents our entire life and birthday celebration…!
Sleep, But Do Not Snore Over Your Dreams
If we are to fuel our dreams with passion and not tears or rattling noise of snorting, it will eventually drive it successfully to its intended overt destination.
So many a people have realized their potentials and are eagerly following suit. But at the sound of the whistle, they fell. They seemed confused and oft ridiculed! But being positive and forward inclined, they have firmly resuscitated and stood tall above the deadliest storm of yesterday.
Are they not those smiling herein and then without a contorted face today? They have not regretted any of the steps they took as a result of not folding their hands betwixt their thighs and being hopeful only. Just like a farmer who, when it rains, his focus goes to the bedroom rather than the farmland!
For such people, it has worked for them. It was just because they paddled their own canoe passionately while waiting for no man. They did not move together with the crowd or its direction. Ideally, nothing forced them to understood that their dream was entirely different from that of the crowd. In so doing, they neither slept over it nor slumbered reluctantly. Because, they came to fish while the rest came for other than fishing!
If the above narrative is evoking poignancy, then it should be known that it takes time for man to have that good dream he is envisaging. When you finally see yours, do not allow fear and laziness to whittle it down! It does so when you are erratic. Be mindful! Perhaps, that could be the only time you would get an inspiration directly from our Lord!
When you have a vision, nurture it with a pragmatic mission. That is the secret of most successful men we know. While we are aware of this, we have decided to cast a blind eye, due to our ‘laziness ambition’.
Do not be petrified about failure. It rather makes the toil meaningful! Get yourself in the mood, and when you dream, drive it with Passion and a kind heart. What are you waiting for? Stop the “Nyame bɛ yɛ thing” [God will do attitude], and follow your faith with hard works. Put whatsoever that had occurred to you into fruition and mould it into perfection. You would see the essence of being passionate.
Pray for a God given zeal to propel your destiny. For it is only prayer which can change bad destiny to a good one, as said by the Messengers of God.
Where You Focus Matters
Have you mistakenly forgotten that the next person that knows you best is Yourself, after our Lord? Pay no attention to people who believe not in your projections – that is only if you are on the right path! When a farmer picks his tools immediately day breaks and advances to the farmland to harvest or cultivate, his thoughts are only on how to feed his family back home and get some extra farm products to sell. Any other obstacle on his way would be surely cut off! In effect, always lower your eyes to those whose wish is to impede your aspirations.
Whenever you envisioned towing a road leading to success, be bent on that desire and eschew from doing things for peoples’ sake! The world of today is such that most men are very arrogant and ungrateful. When you are extremely kind to them they would either misconstrue your benevolence as an effort of ingratiation or term you as a man of show-off. That is why you must focus on nothing but meeting your goals aptly. Only do things to accelerate your soul on the path of righteousness and productivity.
Know your limits and where you are going and what you are towing. If it is walking that would get you there, just walk and focus on the road but not the passers-by. And if you have to run to get there, run, but do not yearn to fly over any offing trouble, you definitely need the stumbling blocks to make you resilient after reaching your peak.
In all these, be faithful to yourself. At this stage of our life we must not behave as if we are older than our age, oh, young men and women. If you are learning a trade focus on your trade. If you are schooling, focus on your books because where you focus matters! This will emancipate you from the bondage of failure in the future.
THE BIASNESS OF THE SOCIETY TOWARDS WOMEN
In most parts of the world, injustices towards women are however substantially larger than the injustices towards men. Thus overall, in a global perspective, there is no doubt that women are being treated unfairly in many situations” by Eivind Kjorstad. It always looks so strange to me as to how the world seems so bias towards women in many situations.
In doing a little analysis on issues concerning men and women, I realized women are been unfairly treated in so many ways. You could see a 76 year old man marrying a 26 year old lady and it seems normal to people but when a lady reaches the age 36 without a man in her life, she is tagged as an old lady and the young energetic men are running away from her. And this suggests that the older a man becomes, the higher the number of ladies available for him but the vice versa that the older a lady becomes the fewer the number of guys available for her, doesn’t this look unfair? The most annoying thing that always happens is when a married man is caught in bed with another woman by his wife, she is been advised by many to forgive him and move on as if she has no feelings. Conversely, when a married woman is caught in bed with another man, the husband is advised to send her packing by his family, friends or relatives. But when you want to talk about these things you will see some men defending this unfair treatment of ladies with the idea that men are polygamous in nature. And it always seems funny to me how these men will hide under polygyny to do these things. Polygamy is different from adultery and they don’t go together. To me personally, adultery is a problem and polygamy is its solution so using polygamy to justify adultery is ignorance at its best. Some men have actually misused their power as men or leaders.
A man divorces his wife today and the next day he is with another lady, six months later he is married, whiles this divorced woman is labeled a divorcee who cannot stay with a man and she is seen remaining single for many years. Is this fair or unfair? Another thing that I always find difficult to understand is, when a woman loses her husband to death and remarries after one year; you will see people complaining here and there that she remarries too early. Some even go to the extent of criticizing her of sleeping with that man even when her husband was alive. Some will also suggest she killed her husband so that she can remarry that man and this is how the society makes it look like. And finally when a man has a good car, he is seen as a marriageable man and women push their daughters to him but again, when a lady is having a good car, you see men shying away from her and she is labeled as not good for marriage because she is the “high class type”.
This is the kind of society we live in…
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