Virginity is one of the most dignified properties of ours today, not only does it be a pride, but it also has spiritual warfare, social happiness and strength. Some societies even believe that, as a virgin, you are being protected spiritually from certain evils that might come on your way.
I personally think, psychologically, being a virgin makes the individual feels happy and have confidence in his or herself, others even go to the extent of saying that a lady who is not a virgin is not worth marrying. Even in some societies in the past, non-virgins were typically seen as unmarriageable and often forced into prostitution. In religion, it is well documented in scriptures, emphasis on chastity before marriage, and the all forms of immorality is emphatically lambasted, a pure example is the Virgin Mary, who was chaste and humble to her Lord, and today we still read and hear of her chaste life.
In my little research, people who are virgins are in a way humble, respectful and honest in their dealings, they are shy, they usually see whoever is older than them as someone who deserve respect, even those they are older than. Research and my observations show that, virgins most often than not have the fear of indulging in most acts that the society frowns against, of course, some virgins are contrary to most of these things I have mentioned, and that is not to suggest that people who are not virgins are the otherwise. But, today, one of the reason why we are facing much behavioral issues with ourselves is because we tend to lose our virginity too early than necessary, and once you lose this virginity, you are likely to be exposed to immoral behaviors like drinking, smoking, prostitution, disrespecting parents and others, if some of you can recall the day that you lose your virginity, it was like you lose your inner self, you don’t feel complete, and things do not look the same to you again, and that is where you see yourself as an adult that needs to be treated as such. You start demanding respect from people, you start to show disrespect to your parents, relatives and elders as well. You begin to feel shy of things that have no shame in them. And you feel the world is under your care, this weak thinking of you being an adult and do not want to be doing some things that will reduce your respect is normal anyway, this is because you have lost your virginity that was like a covering for you.
Please, do not get my write up wrong, it does not mean once you lose your virginity, you will definitely be arrogant, disrespectful and the other immoral acts, NO! My write up is a comparison between virginity and lost virginity, and their possibilities of getting involved in things that are immoral to God and man. Of course, being a virgin does not mean having a good character, those are parallel lines, but the bottom line is, being a virgin is a virtue which very few care to have. You should take pride, if you are a virgin reading this, or you were until marriage.
Big ups to all virgins, society is very bright by your presence.
The Toils Of Getting A Lady To Fall In Love
Reading his radar from afar,
he thought his gazes had resonated her.
Hoping to have triggered her intuitiveness
What he believes to be a latent affection
Born out of a Profound love
What Paramour couldn’t conceive.
Sadly, its germination has stifled
Because he knows not how to get it sprouted
Thus, she isn’t tickled
Her condition and his aren’t intertwined
Defining the tempestuous times of Laryea
Propagating it isn’t yielding
So he has been circumventing
She has also tarried and watching.
He burns his hands while cooking
Laundry expenses are sobbingly accumulating
Washing is hectically tedious
Wringing the dirty jeans alone often strenuous
Now thinking of stinting bachelorship
But Lucretia isn’t yearning for any courtship
Looking at the cosy weather lately at night, His ‘Kofi manu’ only hits no woman but pillow.
Rotating to different bearing isn’t navigable Workplace is uncomfortable
And home too is voidable
Mustn’t Lucretia wipe his tear?
Wouldn’t that endear?
Laryea wants to trend goodly with her
Strolling with their baby in the stroller
Atswei would be jealous
She zealously desire women only
She rejoices whenever ladies object Laryea
That’s just a fraction of her shenanigans
Being loving is kinda heavy duty for Lucretia
The only brainy woman in the enclave
Unfazed about Laryea’s love turmoil
She only focuses on voluminous books.
Can’t Laryea take his looks off her?
An ominous perception of a concerned woman
Raising 50k for a flamboyant wedding
That’s what he was told to estimate
Only to guesstimate consulting a spiritualist
But he has to bait his ‘kofi manu’
Indeed, a hustler’s ambition
Lucretia’s mood is pretty unconcerned
Neither talks nor walks on the tracks of Laryea
Probably, to grease his quest
So that he could stop requesting
For her smile not to compel him to be positive
That, hopefully, he will negate being oppositive
Ayorkor gossiped that he should let go off her
That, Lucretia loves nobody but only books
Not until she has completed her Mba
Then, Laryea should dream going forward
Laryea’s lamentation evokes the culture of old
Our parents tied the knot, penniless
And theirs, school wasn’t ordinariness
It is like the society’s witches are tireless
No plenty cash, no “trendy” woman
No big vocabulary, no epistolary love affair
Laryea can’t afford it, he just can’t.
Laryea’s heart beats for her only
Lucretia, think and re-strategize
If not, you could become Philophobic
Uncle Annan did his when he was square zero
Today is their 30th anniversary
Their children have gone to varsity
Love is the necessity
Education wouldn’t be a prerequisite
That is the irregularity of our generation
Don’t be swayed away
Just let’s trust in God’s sustenance
And consciously tie our camel
That has kept unbroken marital home alive
It is the most trustworthy handhold This is not the opportune time to be slothful
I shall work harder to do the needful
Our affluence would be completely joyful
Surely, and Poverty would be shameful
Thus, I would let go off being erratic and say to the whole world that it pays to be the sacrificial Lamb for the woman you assuredly love and adore.
Trust in Allah.
Poem by Yours Sincerely,
Abdur Rahman Odoi Anum Pobee.
All Right Reserved. ©2019
A NAGGING WOMAN IS A MAN’S POISONOUS MEAT
The world for some time now had descended heavily on women in certain spheres of their lives due to the immensity of contributions they put forth to compliment that of men. There is a colossal chronicle of such events which is normally seen prior the consummation of a marriage. The rite is climaxed with a thorough one-on-one consultation by the bride’s parents, elders and even the long forgotten ancestral mores, so as to coach her on how to satisfy her husband with an impeccable and defensive approach. Still and all, more emphasis is put on these two qualities which are the bride’s cooking skills and sexual appetizers. The print media was, however, awash not long ago with an elderly woman discharging ‘1000 sense’ into her daughter who is being married, to aptly dispense it to her husband thenceforth. Tacitly, those drives are needed in any successful marital home.
In my candid view, I think a reversed consultation about womanhood had to be tabled out to the bridegroom for month’s altogether before the engagement rite is held. Some men are less concerned about the latent qualities of womanhood, so it appears despicable when those unknown attitudes of theirs loomed, and one of such is ‘nagging’. If you dialogue with our ancestors in a dream they would not mince words but rather be frank with you that no matter the amount of gifts you would vouchsafed to an ideal woman, it will never calm her nagging consciousness. If you may have indeliberately promised your little daughter a gift before; I hope you were cognizant of how she held you responsible, even though the vow was intended to compromise her robust decision of following you to work or perhaps, to lure her not to cry to school. Then why have men forgotten that she cometh from her mom? Instead, we emplace unsound actions, most at times in the ‘brain’s eye’ of a man; he would harbour a lofty winks and cheeky responses to outwit his wife’s shrewdness. The most heinous abhorrence in this 21st Century is to deny your wife her position and to earn a standing ovation from your myopic comrades for doing so.
After a sound rethought, most of the real gifts any woman would ever hanker from a man are a fond love, avoid enslaving her, attending to her needs and be a responsible man by taking into consideration any contention she may bring to fore. These are priceless but recurrent privileges that the modern man had lost track of. How would a flirtatious man behaved when he is married to a ‘nagging woman’? It would be sad and unrealistic; his cooperation in this relationship would be mean because his nerves would guesstimate that the woman is not ideal or too garrulous! I hate you, as it is famously said! The woman’s ploy would be the Schwarzenegger’s faction per the man. She would constantly witch-hunt any other woman he talks to, peeps through his phone, feel bad when she serves diner and the man does not consumes it, and she would probably police the man when he starts coming home late at night. The man would always get exasperated and at his worst misdemeanour, he would consider his wife as that “Poisonous Meat” on his soup, ‘you see’!
Until recently, the case that has triggered venomous spleens from social media handlers was the incident that got Ms. Akosua Sarfowaa; a five-month old pregnant woman into jail. News unfolded that her husband was a real Casanova who could not kept his eyes from other people’s meat, but was on the spree of pay-as-you-go! His wife reacted when she caught them in the scene and was more enraged when the lady wore her clothes; the bout which ensued betwixt herself and the rival got her sentenced to two years imprisonment. Yes, so the man is or would be happy to some extent because he could now enjoy free flow of goods! I do not understand why a woman who nags must perchance be a man’s poisonous meat! We know that the future of one’s children depend wholly on his wife after God. So if you want to succeed, you must get that nagging woman who would harass your thoughts, critique your ways to sanitize your ill-motives and even the right things you have not done yet! A nagging woman could save his husband from any mental derailment because she can act as the fortress against the devil and not as being perceived as men’s weakness! More so, she has the power of grooming their kids to be more successful than their dad. Austerity is tied to her because she could dissent her husband’s decision for investing in any shoddy deal which could plunge them to bankruptcy. She will definitely give you that push you require to galvanise and flesh your skeletal ideas. Nonetheless, when your wife nags about wordily affairs and her wrangle is to deprive you of the attainment of a goodly life, then she is a real poisonous meat!
Biblically, Prophet Ibrahim (as) and Sarah were engaged for over 100 years. The only time the obvious books mentioned that both of them doubted their ability is when they were told of bringing forth a progeny into the world. There was no technology at the time unlike the prevalence of iPhone, hangout and Facebook. The intrinsic value of their relationship is that anytime affection is being mentioned then get to know that our ancestors and their loved ones are inextricable. Perversely, Pharaoh’s approach to quench his wife’s (Asiya) whinnying was to crucify her. She was a ‘pious nagger’; because she had found truth in the message professed by Prophet Moses (as) and she affirmed her faith in God Almighty. If today, technology has presented us with all the privileges that even when you are away, you could still fraternise with your family back home, your thoughts are savage if you do not stop perceiving your wife as a nagger and thus, a poisonous meat! That is why today most marital homes are stumbling and on the brink of collapsing! If it is our wish that women should be quiet in times of need, ideally, women hate silence when it is time to talk! The first job for women on earth which has been endorsed by Allah since time immemorial is the “Home-Making Profession”. Have you ever asked yourself which university awards such degree? It is just natural, and because it demands no schooling, it is the prerogative of a woman to strategically mould it in their rightful sense how it would instil God’s tranquillity into the family. That is why nagging cannot be left out! And to modify it our elders have said that a woman who has no teeth is left to the lions. Are you expecting your wife to sing praises and hymns for you when she sees you strolling with thou fornicatress, and buying drinks for other women, meanwhile you are not the one who provides ‘chop-money’ at home! Consider if she is the one who fends for you!
Be grateful that your wife had God in heart, she is never the nagging type but being vociferous on a good course because you are not performing your duties at home. A nagging woman would put you on your toes than a reticent wife; whose first line of action would be broken heart and finally a divorce. It would be prudent if we grow up without emulating that self-acclaimed knowledgeable man who tested the depth of the water with both feet and the river drowned him.
The choice is ours!
A Thoughtful Moment For A Jilted Man
Every situation on this earth that comes our way has its own level of pertinence no matter how dreadful it might seem.
Some come and strips you from the hands of people you thoughtfully affectionate but they, ideally love you not; which you are arrogant of! When you are bedevilled and all alone, you may negate the intelligence of a seemingly destabilizing condition! And one of such is being denied love! Especially, a condition that most men strictly abhor! A test that tastes bad certain times and good most often to only a conscious mind!
Little do we know that loneliness attracts discernible thoughts and probably liberates and thus repel the mind from hazardous relationships! It even teaches great lessons to the soul that is ready to transform all its sorrows into happiness by inclining to a positive drive, and at the same time, forgetting the bruises and wounds it may have suffered from the hands of yesterday’s terrific situation which was spearheaded by thy fishwife! Never walk away from a condition without learning absolutely nothing from it. That, in the future, would be more excruciating than the previous Armageddon you have encountered because you have wilfully detached yourself from acquiring experience!
Making learning a priority is an appetite for a definite resolution, firmly triggering success, this is vital in the life of ours. And have in mind that no situation should penetrate your conscience and arouse any negligence of the sought. Make firm decision as a man and remain steadfast and visionary!
And let us not forget the famous Korean mores on common sense which says that “even a fish would not get into trouble if it kept its mouth shut”.
Fashion2 weeks ago
Second Life Podcast: How Erin and Sara Foster Stay Authentic in Hollywood
Fashion2 weeks ago
Getting Ready With Kathryn Newton for the Ralph Lauren Show at NYFW
Business2 weeks ago
Six more ratifications for African Continental Free Trade Area to enter into force – AU
Fashion6 days ago
Kendall Jenner Wore the Trendy Basic Fashion Girls Should Stock Up on for Spring
Fashion2 weeks ago
20 Designer Logo Pieces That Are Somehow Under $200
Business2 weeks ago
Exporter-outgrower financial product agreement signed
Business1 week ago
Tanzanian small-scale miners excited at nuisance taxes removal
Sports1 week ago
Liberty Professionals transfer defender Aikins Kyei Baffour to Latvian giants Spartak Jurmala